The main thing to remember here is to do what feels right for you on the date. Not what you think your mates would do, what a book’s told you to do or how you think a ‘player’ would act. Setting hard and fast rules means you’ll enjoy the date less and also miss clues about how it is going.

If you’re a straight guy pulling someone is tricky since you’re told to make a move, but also to play it cool. It’s confusing.

Most women still often expect the guy to take the lead in initiating a hug or kiss. They may feel muddled if you had a good date, but you’ve decided to ‘play it cool’ and not give a hug or kiss. They may feel you’re just not that into them.

If you like your date and felt it went well, and if your date hasn’t made a move to kiss you then start with a hug or kiss on the cheek and see if they return your affections. If they don’t, don’t panic – it might be that they’re shy or just taking things slowly.

For gay guys there can be confusion around who makes the first move, but if your partner hasn’t and you like them then start with a hug or kiss and see where things go.