You've been there quite a while, so you are giving up a lot. And presumably a number of your friends are those "robots" doing the same sort of thing (as are you?)
Wherever you go, you are likely to be conforming in some way or another (I bet about 99.5% of us do) - the knack is to find somewhere you are happy to conform.
I quite like the job application process - being forced to think about how wonderful I am. It's good! Persuading other people is the hard part. ;-)
I know, I know exactly where you are coming from - but I have only ever know one work environment, albeit in different stores and roles, essentially it is all the same, and after nine years it is time to move on to something new :)
As for the job application process, it is very exciting, and making me think about myself in a whole new light!
beads wrote:
how are your plast weeks shaping up?
It's all a bit weird, tbh - as Christmas is cranking up now, as is the stress levels, whereas I know that, for me it is not that important!
I am trying to be good, however, and volunteer myself to pick up things that I know need to be done, but the others haven't necessarily got time or inclination to do
I do just want to get stuck in to my job prep and hunt tho...
Golly, only just caught up with what seems like a lifetime of news in about two weeks! Things move fast in the world of Ben.
But it seems largely good and I am very pleased for you. I am particularly pleased that you've come out to more of your friends. I am sure it's going to be a bit weird for a while as they get used to the idea, but it'll get better I'm sure.
I have to say that the reaction "you can't be gay, you like cars and women!" did make me chuckle.
You've been there quite a while, so you are giving up a lot. And presumably a number of your friends are those "robots" doing the same sort of thing (as are you?)
Wherever you go, you are likely to be conforming in some way or another (I bet about 99.5% of us do) - the knack is to find somewhere you are happy to conform.
I quite like the job application process - being forced to think about how wonderful I am. It's good! Persuading other people is the hard part. ;-)
I know, I know exactly where you are coming from - but I have only ever know one work environment, albeit in different stores and roles, essentially it is all the same, and after nine years it is time to move on to something new :)
As for the job application process, it is very exciting, and making me think about myself in a whole new light!
beads wrote:
how are your plast weeks shaping up?
It's all a bit weird, tbh - as Christmas is cranking up now, as is the stress levels, whereas I know that, for me it is not that important!
I am trying to be good, however, and volunteer myself to pick up things that I know need to be done, but the others haven't necessarily got time or inclination to do
I do just want to get stuck in to my job prep and hunt tho...
I had my second job wobble earlier - I think it may have been prompted by two lots of reminiscing about the old days sessions with one of my colleagues, and one of my old section managers today (the SM couldn't believe I was leaving, and commended my bravery, and wished she could do it herself) - and it got me thinking about the people I have worked with, and the fun times we have had together.... *gulp*
Overall, tho I think that my outlook is changing on life in general, to one that is more open and optiumistic and forward looking - I now feel much more in control of my own destiny, which is liberating, but a bit scary too!
I had my second job wobble earlier - I think it may have been prompted by two lots of reminiscing about the old days sessions with one of my colleagues, and one of my old section managers today (the SM couldn't believe I was leaving, and commended my bravery, and wished she could do it herself) - and it got me thinking about the people I have worked with, and the fun times we have had together.... *gulp*
Premature nostalgia - a common complaint, but you'll get over it when somebody pisses you off in the next few weeks.
Ben wrote:
Overall, tho I think that my outlook is changing on life in general, to one that is more open and optiumistic and forward looking - I now feel much more in control of my own destiny, which is liberating, but a bit scary too!
Maybe you should start a full-scale blog like Gubes!
I eventually wrestled this thread back from Will, so that I could post on it again!
Not an awful lot to report, however, I did go out with my schoolfriend (above) and some other mates over Christmas and the two of us had a conversation about me and life and love to the side of the main group convo, and tbh, I thought if they overhear, they overhear. It would be easier that way!
Number one question from him was still why have I not told my folks yet? And this is something that I have been thinking about.... but the time is still not right. Especially with me moving back home for a while at the end of the month. I think I need a geographical barrier, just for me to get my head around it.
I also had one of those awkward conversations with another friend, who is a bit older, and came out when he was 28 - I went round to see his new house, having not seen him properly for about 2 years to talk to, except for when we have met on a drunken night out. As ever, with him, the convo turned to me having a girlfriend. It was a perfect op to tell him, but I chickened out, as his (fit) boyf was there, and his mum sees my folks quite a bit. I did allude to us going for a drink when am back home, so maybe then...
All in all though, I do feel a whole lot more relaxed about things these days :)
My uni housemate said it took him ages to come out, but when he eventually told his parents, they just laughed and said they had known all along! They said it was obvious since he was young!
Okay - you're going to go mad at me for changing the title - but you do need to change it.
The cart may have lurched, but it seems to me you've worked out where you're going on what you're doing. You seem more relaxed about things, and ready to go at your own pace. It seems sensible to tell your parents when you're ready (although a friend tells me that he never told his parents, they just sort of acknowledged it one day), rather than following a rule book.
Okay - you're going to go mad at me for changing the title - but you do need to change it.
Good call - had not noticed that bit of the title, actually!
Claudio wrote:
The cart may have lurched, but it seems to me you've worked out where you're going on what you're doing. You seem more relaxed about things
I certainly do feel more relaxed and in control since I have taken control of what is going on, rather than feeling as if I was part of a wheel that was turning without me having any say in it's speed, or direction.
feeling as if I was part of a wheel that was turning without me having any say in it's speed, or direction.
I went into a certain well-known department store the other day - first I couldn't find anybody to help in the shoes bit, and when I went to the food hall (erratically stocked, may I say), the staff carried on a conversation while "serving" and when I got home some of the over-packaged fruit was off - which you couldn't tell because it was in hard plastic!
feeling as if I was part of a wheel that was turning without me having any say in it's speed, or direction.
I went into a certain well-known department store the other day - first I couldn't find anybody to help in the shoes bit, and when I went to the food hall (erratically stocked, may I say), the staff carried on a conversation while "serving" and when I got home some of the over-packaged fruit was off - which you couldn't tell because it was in hard plastic!
I think they are missing you already.
Was it the one I used to work in, or the one in your neck o'woods? I dunno if the one over your way has a manager at the mo, as someone I know got shipped in to see the opening of the new-look store.
Sounds a bit chaotic at the mo, as all the regions/regional managers are being reshuffled (for the second time in 12 months) - am glad to be out. Results will be interesting tomorrow, and share price has plunged in last few days.
