Hi STE,

Sorry to hear about your mum's friend. Cancer is a horrible, horrible disease which catches up with us all eventually, either directly or indirectly.

If you are in real life as crazy, kind and thoughtful as you are on Mansized, then I'm fairly sure that that is the guy that your mum's friend would like you to continue to be.

Hugs and kisses if that is your style - and maybe even if it isn't your style, it might be all that she needs to know that you care.

Whatever way, don't be afraid to act the same as you always do - you will know when the time is right to act differently.

As regards the illness, don't agonise about what will or won't happen; whatever your beliefs, that is not in our hands.

Be assured that she will get the best possible treatment and care, and remember to support your mum, and her friend's family.