First, Dr. Petra, thank you for your reply to my questions (my apologies for taking this long to reply).
Hi MB
Like you I've heard mixed reviews about a lot of adult/friend sites. The majority of anecdotal evidence does seem to indicate there are far more men on sites than women, and that not everyone signing up to sites are clear about what they are offering.
It isn't clear from your message exactly what you are after. If you want sex without any other commitment then an adult site like the one LBS recommended could be worth trying.
Well, I guess I'm kind of foggy about what I'm looking for. I'm still kind of reeling from the after-effects of my last relationship. Like I said, I don't want to be celibate indefinitely. I've only ever had one one-night stand, but that was long ago. I'm not sure if I'm up to another long-term relationship right now, but am I subconsciously looking for something more than a one-shot-deal (he asked himself)? In any case, a megadose of human contact would feel really nice right now.
Update: I've tried Onlinebootycall.com, and I've gotten a few responses, but no real-life meet-ups have resulted. Bought 3 months with them, wouldn't do it again. I've heard good things about Lavalife. Have to check that out.
Set out exactly what it is you are offering in a clear and friendly way. You can still enjoy friendly and respectful relations with someone even if it's not going to be a relationship.
I'm with you 200% on that point, Dr. Petra. I guess the proper word for what I'm seeking is "friend with benefits".
Alternatively it may be you would like a relationship that is casual (and includes sex) but isn't going to be something long term or serious. There's no reason why you can't join a regular dating site and meet people there so long as you are clear about what is on offer. Many sites do let you set out that you aren't looking for anything long term right now. It doesn't stop you enjoying dates and having company - or even making new friends.
Thank you for reminding me of those points, Doctor.
Although that takes me onto another option. If you just want sex without strings and are uncertain about some of the adult dating style sites then paying for it is an option - at least you know what you're getting from the start. If that doesn't appeal then please ignore this comment :-)
Unfortunately, in all but a select few places here in the USA (mainly in the state of Nevada), personal sex work is illegal (look what happened to our governor!). So that option's off the table. Not that sex-as-a-business-deal is my cup of latte!
Not sure if any of those options appeal, but I would suggest the main thing to sort out is exactly what it is you are after, and then seek out sites where you think you'll have the most likelihood of getting it.
A simple concept, but such an easy one to forget sometimes!
Thank you for being the voice of sanity, once again.
