What do people think of mind games when it comes to relationships/ potential relationships?
It seems the general consensus is you shouldn't play games because it ultimately bites you in the ass (karma!), yet most friends I know who are in relationships now or sleep around play games all the time.
You know, like deliberately ignoring someone, insulting them, making plans then cancelling to make themselves look busy, etc.
This does stem from my interest in a particular friend that is a never-ending saga. But if you knew (or thought) someone was playing games, yet couldn't get the thought of more out of your head - could you really cut all contact? Especially if that person was a friend and there's been what if situations in the past?
Are you saying you like someone but think they are playing games with you?
Arranging something with someone and then cancelling pretending you are too busy isn't playing a game. It's being a twat and that someone just isn't worth your time because they clearly don't give a shit.
Are you saying you like someone but think they are playing games with you?
Arranging something with someone and then cancelling pretending you are too busy isn't playing a game. It's being a twat and that someone just isn't worth your time because they clearly don't give a shit.
Agreed!
Relationships shouldn't be built or revolve around playing hard to get or mind games. Honesty and being genuine are the way forward.
Are you saying you like someone but think they are playing games with you?
Well kind of yes. A friend that I've known for years and there's always been some chemistry between us. Here's the full story:
I was out with her on Friday, we are good friends again after being great friends then falling out over nothing. While we are in the pub she says one of her friends is coming along too. Her friend turns up and it's all fine. Then by chance I see one of my friends and he joins us (making sense so far?)
We go onto a club and pretty much as soon as we are in there she buggers off with her friend, don't really see her again. My friend and I chat, have a few drinks and dance. We start dancing and they come and dance with us, then move away and start danicng on their own - at one point walking past us without a glance (this is were I think there is the game playing) I'm not really feeling the club so say we can just go (my friend wanted to go anyway due to work the next day) so just left. While we were waiting to collect our jackets they cam eright behind us asking why we were going.
Anyway, we leave and I was probably looking a bit miffed. She say "text me tomorrow" when I replied "you text me!" (mature I know!) Part of me thinks this is over-analysis, but we have talked about dating each before. Though it seems impossible to have a serious conversation with her, I always feel like I'm making myself vulnerable if I try to talk about it - like she is in control (which I hate and was part of the reason I'm not going to chase her, even if she wanted me to)
Turned into a bit of a rant there. I know what I'd think reading that. That I shouldn't play her games, tell her how I feel (even if I knew!), etc. But not wanting to be burned (especially after talking to ehr about it before) and potentially weirding up our friendship makes things more difficult.
We go onto a club and pretty much as soon as we are in there she buggers off with her friend, don't really see her again.
She say "text me tomorrow" when I replied "you text me!"
Though it seems impossible to have a serious conversation with her, I always feel like I'm making myself vulnerable if I try to talk about it - like she is in control (which I hate and was part of the reason I'm not going to chase her, even if she wanted me to)
I think she likes having you around, she knows you like her and enjoys the ego boost, but I don't think she wants to date you.
I could be wrong but that's the impression I get. If I liked a bloke and went to a club with him - I certainly wouldn't naff off with my friend and then ignore him!
Also, the way she wants you to text her (what sort of weirdo is she?!) makes me think she likes having you chase her about. She wouldn't ask her girlfriend to text her would she?
Trust your gut - talking to her seriously makes you feel vulnerable. There's a reason why IMO.
Maybe this is denial but I don't chase her. If it goes weeks without a text or whatever it doesn't particulary bother me. It works both ways too - it isn't always one person contacting the other.
It's not that I want to date her per se, but we really do get along great when we are playing pool or at the pub, etc and part of me wonders what it'd be like to date her. Remember she's a person with unstable feelings too, so may not know what she wants (probably like me!) So she might be trying to seem aloof, uninterested to see if I am (wishful thinking maybe?)
