After the zillions of rubbish positions of put myself in this year, the common denominator seems to be I find it hard to put off sleeping with someone I fancy. By no means is this sleeping with ANYONE, but if I fancy them, and they are offering, I find it hard to say no.

My close friend has suggested this may be the cause of many of my relationship issues.

So, do guys REALLY think if you sleep with someone quickly you're cheap and not worth looking at for anything other than sex? And once I have slept with someone, is there anything I can do to redeem myself? :-S

This goes against all of my beliefs to ask this. I've always thought if I choose to sleep with someone, and they judge me for that, then they are not worthy of my attention anyway.

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How quickly we talking?

yes if it's the first date and she ends up in my bed.

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Erm usually quicker than first date!

So how does she redeem herself out of interest Pete? And why the double standards?!

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If a girl slept with me on a first date I would question how many dudes she has been with. Men like to think allgirls are virgins.

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yet, you may still want to sleep with her

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What about if a girl doesn't put out for ages and then when she finally does, it turns out she f*cks like a porn star...?!

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So, do guys REALLY think if you sleep with someone quickly you're cheap and not worth looking at for anything other than sex? Yes

And once I have slept with someone, is there anything I can do to redeem myself?No

It is your choice of course whether you do or not.

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*Apple goes up a few steps in my worship of her

Yeah blokes don't really like it. We'll sleep with a girl, then think how many times has she done that. It's total double standards, but we're blokes. We're bastards.

Then again, if I liked a girl, it wouldn't make a difference. It'd just be a bonus that she's in the sack earlier than expected.

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that's a bit confusing?

How can you bed someone without meeting them on the first date apple?!

Do you like cox? :P hahah

Well sometimes redemption is not possible. But just tell him you like COX! that'll put a smile on his face. (Note you would have to SAY that to his face)
you get me?

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I do not see a problem, it is all depends on the situation.

It is a double standard; the women is a slut, the man is a player. There generally is a double standard in most things in life.


"I've always thought if I choose to sleep with someone, and they judge me for that, then they are not worthy of my attention anyway."

Has this worked against you in the past and have you asked them why they thought this.

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