So have you actually seen him yet?

If I saw my great love any time soon I'm sure I'd throw up or faint! Lets hope 25 years down the line I'd remain composed.

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Other than his new location, what do you know about him, Beads?

You say you have a mixture of emotions regarding him, but is there one in particular that stands out?

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huh?
yes, in the supermarket.

I didn't throw up or faint.. I did cuss a bit and privately bemoan the fact that I looked like crap having been gardening all afternoon

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I know about his means of employment and his family.

the feeling that stands out the most is SURPRISE followed closely by delight to find him alive, well and happy. ( last two assumptions obviously although on fairly good grounds )

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Your answer

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Well I dont see any harm in meeting him, whether or not you discuss your past relationship. We all have a past, I suppose it haunting us depends on how deeply we dig into it. A drink with an old friend would be fine I think.

I would be concerned if your overwhelming feeling was 'OH MY GOD HE IS AS GORGEOUS AS EVER AND I REALLY WISH I WASN'T MARRIED!'

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Well, we'll see.

It's an odd feeling really. I need to get over the shock.

It's so long ago and so ingrained in my psyche - it would be sad to have the memory corrupted by 'fact' after all this time.

:-D funny old day.
It's certainly given me something to chuckle about though.

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Which is why I think it is fine to meet! You are happy to see an old friend/partner, not desperate to meet up and pick up where you left off!

I love life's little quirks like that.

Although not the same, a quirk from my love life is that the two most serious girlfriends I have had were born on the same day, on the same ward in the same hospital! How bizarre!

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Beads, if it wasn't an issue you wouldn't write it here as a question.

You'd have written... 'Guess what??... I bumped into my first love today and I didn't even recognise him, how funny is that? He has become a fat porker with buck teeth and I did well getting away from that one'

Bin the number and forget it.

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we'll see.

I was just pondering the oddity of it really, rather than it being an issue.

I do acknowledge what you are saying though.

*thanks all

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