Want to canvass opinions on an issue. Short story: got off with good friend at weekend, fairly tame, could have gone further but didn’t. We were both drunk, I was the one who initiated it.
We have seen each other a couple of times since then and haven’t repeated it or even mentioned it. Things have not been awkward between us – on the outside everything is back to normal. However, it has been bothering me. I want to mention it to him tomorrow as I want to gauge how he feels about it.
However, I’m not sure whether it might just be best not to mention it. Is it more trouble/stress than it's worth? Are some things better left unsaid?
I really fancy him but not sure I want to date him. I think he might feel the same but not sure. Is it worth having a conversation or shall I just leave it?
p.s. Extra factor is that I think my friend really likes him too and she might be rather upset if she knew something had gone on.
I really fancy him but not sure I want to date him.
Why?
Gubernatrix wrote:
I think he might feel the same but not sure. Is it worth having a conversation or shall I just leave it?
Depends if you want to date him!
Gubernatrix wrote:
p.s. Extra factor is that I think my friend really likes him too and she might be rather upset if she knew something had gone on.
Women can be strange creatures, so I guess you know the reperucssions more than me!
Its obviously on your mind, and I suspect there isnt any going back without you having some kind of chat about whats on your mind. You wouldnt be posting otherwise.
I think (just my opinion) if you are good friends you should probably clear the air either way.
Looked fairly standard really, bit of messing about when you had, had a drink... it'll come up in conversation eventually, no need to rush it....
Then you add that you fancy him but don't want to date him... throw in that your mate likes him and would possibly be upset if anything happened between you and him....
Looked fairly standard really, bit of messing about when you had, had a drink
Yeah it is, was just wondering what the 'bloke' point of view was. Do blokes just prefer to ignore this kind of stuff instead of getting into 'conversations'?
Personally I dont think their is a "bloke" view.
It depends on the bloke.
If the bloke really likes you, he might be having the same anguishes as you.
If he has his eye on someone else he might be thinking "crap , what did I do".
