I dont fully understand the part where you say you really fancy him but dont want to date him? Does that mean if he was interested in making something of it then you would still turn him down?
I dont think he fancies your mate - he wouldn't have snogged you if he did, knowing you are friends.
If you are happy to take things forward with him, mention it. Let him know where you stand.
If you are happy with just a kiss and dont want a relationship with him, dont mention it. It saves any potentially arkward discussions!
Want to canvass opinions on an issue. Short story: got off with good friend at weekend, fairly tame, could have gone further but didn’t. We were both drunk, I was the one who initiated it.
We have seen each other a couple of times since then and haven’t repeated it or even mentioned it. Things have not been awkward between us – on the outside everything is back to normal. However, it has been bothering me. I want to mention it to him tomorrow as I want to gauge how he feels about it.
However, I’m not sure whether it might just be best not to mention it. Is it more trouble/stress than it's worth? Are some things better left unsaid?
I really fancy him but not sure I want to date him. I think he might feel the same but not sure. Is it worth having a conversation or shall I just leave it?
p.s. Extra factor is that I think my friend really likes him too and she might be rather upset if she knew something had gone on.
Cheers for any thoughts!
Ok well I think you like him, a lot. You are dressing this all up in a shielded version not to crack the Gubernatrix look but in truth you are a little girl that wants to be loved. There is no crime there. We all want loving hun. You are though afraid to try to hard incase the mask slips.
Ok so we now know you like him loads... then what... sh*t just tell him you enjoyed the other night and see what happens.
Don't think about 'dating' etc... just take it a day at a time and see where it goes if anywhere.
I dont fully understand the part where you say you really fancy him but dont want to date him? Does that mean if he was interested in making something of it then you would still turn him down?
I don't know, that's the problem. I am nervous about getting into relationships...
I dont fully understand the part where you say you really fancy him but dont want to date him? Does that mean if he was interested in making something of it then you would still turn him down?
I don't know, that's the problem. I am nervous about getting into relationships...
I dont think relationships are the problem - it is the people we enter into them with!
How well do you know him? What is holding you back?
Want to canvass opinions on an issue. Short story: got off with good friend at weekend, fairly tame, could have gone further but didn’t. We were both drunk, I was the one who initiated it.
We have seen each other a couple of times since then and haven’t repeated it or even mentioned it. Things have not been awkward between us – on the outside everything is back to normal. However, it has been bothering me. I want to mention it to him tomorrow as I want to gauge how he feels about it.
However, I’m not sure whether it might just be best not to mention it. Is it more trouble/stress than it's worth? Are some things better left unsaid?
I really fancy him but not sure I want to date him. I think he might feel the same but not sure. Is it worth having a conversation or shall I just leave it?
p.s. Extra factor is that I think my friend really likes him too and she might be rather upset if she knew something had gone on.
Cheers for any thoughts!
Ok well I think you like him, a lot. You are dressing this all up in a shielded version not to crack the Gubernatrix look but in truth you are a little girl that wants to be loved. There is no crime there. We all want loving hun. You are though afraid to try to hard incase the mask slips.
Ok so we now know you like him loads... then what... sh*t just tell him you enjoyed the other night and see what happens.
Don't think about 'dating' etc... just take it a day at a time and see where it goes if anywhere.
Hope it works out for you.
If he's a good friend you can talk to him.
If your other friend fancies him but doesn't actually go out with him then you can talk to her too.
I think the mutual friend is out of the question - if he has known her longer and still nothing has happened then I'm fairly sure he isn't interested.
Regarding it being a while since you have been out with anyone, that isn't going to change if you keep panicing about being in a relationship and turning away from them.
