First off I am jealous as hell, secondly, how much do you care about your mate? Is it worth anything coming between you two, but on the other hand, she has no devine right to this guy anymore than you so fairs fair, although she will prob not see it that way.
also, I would never 'start' a relationship. Surely you just take things day by day at the start? You say you think thus man likes you (he's gor good taste!) so I think the signs are good.
Positives:
Gubes likes dude
dude likes gubes
Good kisser ( was he?)
he could be the one
Negatives:
could break friendships with girl mate
could change friendship with dude forever
If I was that guy I would prob wait for you to speak up for risk of rejection if you know what I mean.
I don't really know what to add to the bag, but if you like him (which I think you do) and he likes you (which I hope he does, cos he snogged you back), then just see how it goes.... Don't make a big issue of it, but then again try not to be too cool either. Shit, I don't half sit on the fence, and see where that gets me!
I know what I want you to do: go out with him again, and see what happens :)
I really fancy him but not sure I want to date him. I think he might feel the same but not sure. Is it worth having a conversation or shall I just leave it?
I'm still confused - what exactly do you want from him then?
If you want nothing more than what you have, i.e. friendship, then I wouldn't mention anything. If you do want more, well, you can play games or you can just approach him and see what he says!
As for the other friend. Well, it depends, how long have they known each other? If for quite a long time, and she still hasn't made a move, she can't claim first dibs on the guy forever! If she is a good friend of yours, and you want to go forward with the guy, maybe you should gently broach the subject with her. I mean, in a way it's not any of her business, but presumably she is going to find out sooner or later.
Thanks guys, I knew posting on here would be a good thing to do! You've made me laugh about it as well, which is a good thing.
At the moment, I am leaning towards not mentioning anything and just seeing how/if things develop. I don't seem to know what I want, so it seems a bit unfair to broach the subject and then not be able to give him a straight answer.
We talked on the phone for about an hour tonight (just normal chat, nothing to do with this issue) which was nice. I've probably been overcomplicating things!
Now this is a generic example and not aimed at gubes.
The day after
Woman: we kissed, will it ruin friendship, will i lose other friends, will we get married, does he like me, do i like him, should i talk to him, will he talk to me, does he like me, was it a good kiss, was i too drunk, does he remember, does he like me, do i like him, what should i do
Man: got a snog last night, nice boobs
What's the worst that could happen if you do or if you don't talk to him, and which would you prefer?
Looked fairly standard really, bit of messing about when you had, had a drink
Yeah it is, was just wondering what the 'bloke' point of view was. Do blokes just prefer to ignore this kind of stuff instead of getting into 'conversations'?
It'll eventually come up... and to be honest this is how things started with my now wife...
Phoenix is right. If you bring it up you are inviting more of this sort of attention from the guy. If you don't want to send that signal you shouldn't do it.
Think about what you want, not what your friend wants. If you want the guy, tough on the friend, all's fair in love and war. However, though I think it would be worth upsetting your friend if you decided to go for it with the guy, I doubt it would be worth upsetting her to create an indecisive mess.
What is the down side of trying it with the guy, leaving aside the friend issue?
