Wasn't quite sure where to put this but here goes:
Early next year I'm planning on moving out of the comforts of living with the folks & moving in with Mrs Ace (who lives 70 miles away). Obviously this would mean a new job & renting somewhere, away from my close family & freinds, & doing without the little luxuries I have now like disposable cash, Sky tv etc
Figured it was about time I got into the real world & out of my rut! An opportinuty has cropped up which would mean it's possible I could be moving sooner rather than later
The main things that concern me are:
Getting a new job, I've been here so long
Moving away from my buds
Suffering financially
Do you have a moving out story? What pushed you to go? Was it the end of your life as you knew it? Did you move "local" or a bit further a field?
I went to a London Uni as an undergrad so didn't bother moving out then, and carried on living at home after graduation. It wasn't until I started PhD in north London that I moved out, as the total commute would have been 3-5 hours a day. Plus they were offering cheap student accommodation (£150 a month!) so no argument.
The biggest challenge was cooking for myself, as I had rarely done any while living at home. Had a brief crash course from mum then proceeded to try poisoning myself by trial and error! Took time but got used to making stuff for myself. One of the girls in the house was a Cambridge graduate, where apparently they do EVERYthing for their students living there. She couldn't be bothered to learn to cook so lived off toast, tea and microwave meals.
Was a bit trying, living with other people - one of whom was ultra cleaning freak and other two were somewhat lax in keeping house clean.
I guess it wasn't too much of a shock as I was still in London, and wasn't too difficult to see friensd or family on other end of town, although the commuting times meant I didn't do that v often.
I've ended up moving phd and also moving back home, which took a lot of getting used to. I'm still looking at moving out again.
Why do you have to move so far away from your mates? Are you moving to where she already lives?
I moved to where my ex lived (probably an hour or so away) and it was really hard if I'm honest. It's quite difficult to make new friends when you are in a couple. All the people we saw were his friends (not that he had many, being an arsehole).
I left home at 19 to go to uni, was away four years, met the now mrs FB who was still a student.
Upon graduation i got a job in sarf lahndan to be nearer her.
Moved into a studio apartment, on my own. Very lonely first couple of months, and expensive, became 'known' to local chinese takeaway (i reckon they still miss my business).
She eventually moved in. Chinese no longer on menu and moved further south.
Never really felt 'sad' about moving out of home (i needed the independance), apart from Mum's tears as she waved me off after visits. Never missed old mates. Never worried about the future, in fact never really thought about it, just did it.
Why do you have to move so far away from your mates? Are you moving to where she already lives?
I moved to where my ex lived (probably an hour or so away) and it was really hard if I'm honest. It's quite difficult to make new friends when you are in a couple. All the people we saw were his friends (not that he had many, being an arsehole).
I live in a fairly small town where not much happens whereas she's in the busier suburbs of a large city, plus she's the one with a better job whereas mine's pretty rubbish (though not without it's perks). From what we've discussed she'd be more up for moving around here when we came to settle down (family etc) & buy a place of our own.
The friends thing is a big thing, most of her mates are alrite & there boyfreind's are sound but not really the type of guys I hang around with
